Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Ex-Mormon does not = Ex-Happy

This is a comment I received in response to my previous post...

"psalms 63 "Who whet their tongue like a sword, and bend their bows to shoot their arrows, even bitter words: that they may shoot in secret at the perfect: suddenly do they shoot at him, and fear not. They encourage themselves in an evil matter: they commune of laying snares privily they say, who shall see us? They search out iniquities... but God shall shoot at them with an arrow, suddenly shall they be wounded.,So they shall make their own tongue to fall upon themselves, all that see them shall fless away.. and all men shall fear, and shall declare the Work of God, for they shall wisely consider of His doing. The righteous shall be glad in the Lord, and shall trust in Him and all the upright in heart shall glory.." Show me ONE happy exmo, post mo, anti mo.. just One....I have yet in my 10 years on the internet met one, successful in life, happy exmo.. kitty"

Well, Ms. Happy Kitty... it seems to me that it is you who is "laying snares" at me. I was not judging you or anyone else. I was not even suggesting that I am unhappy, only extreemely busy. I am actually quite happy and consider myself fairly successful at life. Now, if you are meaning successful at earning a lot of money, no, so far I am not doing that, but is that the only way to judge one's success? I am a great mother and friend.

I do remember hearing the stories about how unhappy members become once they leave the church. It's a trick to scare members.

I have an aunt who left her husband and the church. I was close with her kids, my cousins. After many years of searching and when her kids started getting married, she became unhappy and killed herself. She was sorry for all the pain that she had caused her family. It was assumed that she regretted leaving the church, but if that is all she wanted, all she had to do was walk in the doors.


Mormon Truth said...

That's the craziest thing I have ever heard that Ex-Mormons are not happy!! I am an ex-mormon and I couldn't be HAPPIER about it!! I can see however, it taking a long time for ex-mormons to climb out of the web of lies and deceit which can make them un-happy. But after you find out the truth and find the true, biblical Jesus, happiness is right at your feet.

Tom said...

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Aaron said...

Yeah, I've gotta say, it's not easy leaving the church. It's not all sunshine and rainbows, but overall, I'm much more relaxed and at peace. There is something to be said for pursuing what you feel to be correct.

Matt said...

What you had was some kitty litter, I am afraid! (sorry!)

Tom said...

What is it they always say? "Wickedness never was happiness?"

Living a lie is wickedness incarnate! I realized what emotional damage just drifting around as an inactive member was doing. After I had my name removed it was like a giant weight was lifted off my shoulders! I even started blogging about my weird missionary experiences.

Anonymous said...

THE works, and the designs, and the purposes of God cannot be frustrated, neither can they come to naught.

(Doctrine and Covenants | Section 3:1)

This discourse is addressed to ALL OF YOU, but more particualry to the Idolaters and the Adulamites; and principally to all the apostates and dissenters of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Hear my words and give heed to my speech for the LORD has spoken it saying:

THE works, and the designs, and the purposes of God cannot be frustrated, neither can they come to naught. For God doth not walk in crooked paths, neither doth he turn to the right hand nor to the left, neither doth he vary from that which he hath said, therefore his paths are straight, and his course is one eternal round.

Remember, remember that it is not the work of God that is frustrated, but the work of men.

For although a man may have many revelations, and have power to do many mighty works, yet if he boasts in his own strength, and sets at naught the counsels of God, and follows after the dictates of his own will and carnal desires, he must fall and incur the vengeance of a just God upon him.

(Doctrine and Covenants | Section 3:1 - 4)

Brethren, is this:

The Best Conference Talk You Never Read

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Trixie Granny said...

I find it interesting the way the church likes to spread rumors about how a person will feel if they left the church. This is yet another form of manipulation to keep its members active and afraid to leave. The same way a controlling spouce reminds the other that they would be nothing without them. They remind them that they are dependent on them, (by design).
People who feel the need to quote scripture on blogs such as mine, are seemingly justifying they're own reason for staying in the church.